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I'm only ten minutes into this video, and already the economic pain you are describing sounds a lot like what we are experiencing in the United States. It used to be, if you wanted to be anywhere near any form of coast line you couldn't afford it. Now it's 'if it's near any metropolitan city area you can't afford it. Animal proteins: Beef, Chicken, Pork, Seafood, and some dairy products have shot up in price (to one reason or another). What you describe is why a lot of millennials and Gen Z aren't having kids-- If they can't have the single family dwelling the two car garage, the dog, the cat... They're writing everything else off as well. I hate to say this but what you are describing is a global phenomenon!!!

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Hey, i was stalked back i was in 6form & the boy got my phone number off a friend cz he said he'd get his sister to beat me up is that friend didnt give him my number. Then he would call me up & just breath down the phone, so i found out who the boy was. Lucky i knew his head of year & told the head of year what this boy had been doing & the boy got he's phone taken away & kicked out of the school.

The worst was my pinky toe I let a friend practice now getting it covered up so not looking forward to it guessing it's going to be alot more painful

“It was like they were waiting for me to be attacked before they did anything” they were. I was told when I had a stalker that they couldn’t do anything to stop it until he actually made a physical move. They also talked me out of a restraining order saying it would be expensive to upkeep and wouldn’t be worth it. My sister’s ex-husband was mentally unhinged to the point where she told me “I fully believe that if he feels he has nothing left to lose he will come kill me” the police wouldn’t do anything until he would try. Same story with my friend being stalked around university campus by a guy saying what kind of sexual assault he was going to do to her in vivid detail while following her between classes, waiting outside of buildings he knew she was in, she reported him to the campus police, the Dean of students, teachers, etc… she was told she could be expelled if she reported him anymore because she was apparently impeding his education while HE was skipping classes to stalk her. The police told her they couldn’t do anything until he actually hurt her. I had to be her bodyguard because she knew I would protect her when nobody else would. There’s a bunch of shows here in America abiut true crime cases and 100% of them are “she died because police refused to do anything until she was already missing and even then they didn’t let us file a missing persons report for 48 hours and tried to tell us she probably just left on her own.” After months or years of reports about some person stalking and abusing the victim. I saw an article with an interview from an ex-detective and he said “police aren’t here to prevent crime, they’re here to clean up after it.” So basically they’re law *enforcement* officers, not crime prevention officers.

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You know the cost of living is so bad in the UK when I can go spend a month in Helsinki and like, it's not even that expensive anymore. Like barely more than what I would pay here. The Nordics are some of the most expensive countries on the planet.

Yeah, the police are fun to deal with. /s If you're a man, then obviously you aren't actually threatened because you're strong and big and you should be able to defend yourself. If you're a woman and the perp is a man, then obviously you're trying to enact revenge via law. You're lying and clearly being manipulative. If you're a woman and the perp is a woman, ... what? Women can't be threatening, what are you talking about? You must be misunderstanding the situation. If you're nonbinary, no you're not. And if you're a child, then you don't know what's good for you. You can't decide for yourself and you're being manipulated by the people around you and that's the only reason you're coming out with all this nonsense. I've dealt with the police myself. They won't take you seriously no matter what. Even if you've gone through the "bad enough stuff" they were waiting for, it doesn't matter unless you have hard evidence, and you most likely don't. And I've dealt with some light (?) stalking, but I obvs didn't go to the police. It was easier to wait it out and then move elsewhere without looking back.

It's like that where I live in WA state. When I moved here it was barely affordable, but not impossible. A year after moving things went up exponentially. I barely was able to move apartments to "an affordable unit". I'm now paying almost $2000 a month (over one paycheck). Like you said, I can't move due to transportation and my job. It's to the point here that people are looking at dating as a transactional situation to be able to afford to live. It's so dystopian

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💖 thank you for being so honest about your experience. Keep being so strong! It’s beautiful to see. 🤗

I never expeted you to review this show, also didnt know you made extra videos on different subjects, but im sooo glad you did, more people need to be having this discussion! Stalking + SA can happen to anyone at anytime, and awarness+acceptence of this fact is the most important step to helping survivors reach out to get help!

I adore all your content. I am sitting her nodding alonge agreeing on like everything you are saying!!!! Para social relationships can be scary. I'm sorry you had to deal with that. My narcissistic ex stalks me still but I cannot fathom being stalked by a stranger or a one time meeting person. Laws where I am ( Pennsylvania)can be grey on what stalking is too. And it's like something bad has to happen before they take it seriously. Love that you are using your platform for serious matters too. 💜💜💜💜💜 Keep being amazing x.

as a stalking victum, as well, i am scared to watch this. like.... i want to cuz i love true crime stuff... but stalking is a WHOLE OTHER WORLD. My stalker was a bf with a dad as a head of police for the area. I TRIED filing a report but none of the police took me seriously cuz the guy was a cops' son with "big dreams and a possibly football scholarship." I am just glad it never got to the point of him causing harm. Also, as you being a youtuber... that STILL doesn't excuse this happening (some people would say "well it should be expected seeing your a public figure"). Like no

I was section 21'd out of London at the end of summer last year and it took me months to get past the feeling like I had failed by not being able to afford to live there - but as a renter it just didnt feel safe to live there anymore, there's no protections to stop that from happening again, and I was struggling to find anyone who wanted to house share with someone in their late 30s. I tried looking at Brighton too as basically all of my friends live there, but that's even worse for house shares, it's too popular of a city so the rental market is extremely competitive, and most of the rooms are for students only.

Roly I truly think you're an amazing person and I'm so sorry this happened to you. I had an ex boyfriend that befriended me in highschool when I had a boyfriend before him, and he did not take any hints. He would be all over me and he would gift me food all of the time, always trying to make me feel something like appreciation. I had to tell the counselors about him and it had stopped temporarily, but once I was single he came after me again. Because he was so good at making me feel appreciated, especially after my breakup, I got together with him which led to the true abuse. The yelling, hitting, and disregarding my boundaries, turning my family against me, breaking up four times, he also would be with other women and be very hypocritical about me not having guy friends, it all eventually made me realize I'm better than that. He still would try to come back a few times, but after my dad and the police spoke to him it's been pretty tame. But man, I still feel unsafe being around town where I know he hangs around. I cannot go to where I think he works, I cannot go to the carwash by myself (he loves to wash his cars), and if I see him at all I can already feel the little heart attack I would get trying to find the best way to avoid him. I can understand what you're talking about, it's not a great feeling, but life goes on and I truly believe karma will get him.

I think here in the UK misandry is still very much considered "not a real thing" by the police and these crimes against men are still not taken as seriously as male on female stalkers. Women are still believed to be "the weaker sex" by many, but there are a lot of very conniving and just all-round vile women and they don't always hide in the shadows. Someone a relative of mine knows told another guy she knows/knew (I don't know if she still has any contact with him) a bunch of lies about my relative and basically got the guy to go and literally "smash his face in". The total irony, absolute idiocy or whatever you want to call it is that my relative and this woman are still friends. She occasionally threatens him and he still doesn't sever contact with her. So many people have told him time and again that this is not how friends treat each other. She's also accused him of stealing things from her and got the police involved, she's threatened to smash *my* face in, she threatened to attack my Mum while she was still alive. She's a total head-case as far as I'm concerned, but he won't do anything about her. I don't know if it's because he believes he has no other friends or that the police wouldn't believe him if he reported her - it actually wouldn't surprise me if she herself had told him the police wouldn't believe him! But female-on-male crimes of misandry need to be stopped as much as male-on-female misogyny, stalking and violence crimes. I started watching "Baby Reindeer" but haven't got round to finishing it yet. Roly, I'm so sorry that you had to go through that sheer hell. Nobody should have to go through, let alone live through events like that and nobody deserves to have their peace of mind stomped into the ground like that.

In America, stalking isn't taken seriously until there is physical harm. They just don't care, it's always a lot of evidence to go through and just because they don't want to read, they don't. It's disgusting to think that there are lots of people dead now because some "investigator" didn't feel like reading. And they'll never do anything to fix it either.

Just wanted to send a big supportive hug 💕

I wholeheartedly agree with how messed up it is to give her this platform (and also the Dahmer thing, it is just so gross).

Police are reactionary and I experienced similar attitude with domestic abuse reporting. It really sucks and its difficult to protect yourself because you are questioned as if you are the aggressor a lot! Fuck these creeps!

Roly thanks for showing us the reflection of you in your collections (your Simpsons shoes!!!!) you’ve done some great decorating and quite a bit of setting in already. Great move!

Roly, sweet!! 🥺🥹 I've followed your dreadful stalker situation since almost the beginning (cuz I still remember the pfp of that woman, she was always in every single one of your videos leaving comments and such haha) and trust me, it made me realize that what I've been saying for sooo long isn't crazy or absurd: people in general don't take male victims + female perpetrators seriously enough! It's so crazy to me the amount of men and women who will completely dismiss your story as a man, even as a gay man, just because they still think a woman would be incapable of committing such crimes (it has a bit of misogyny, cuz they seem to think a woman can't be strong or smart enough to also be incredibly evil lol). Sending you so many hugs and thoughts of love babes 🫂 💕 Just know that me, another gay man, I sympathize with your situation completely and I'm sure most of your beautiful community thinks the same way. Take care!! ❤❤❤

I am so glad you did this video, I am a fairly new Roly fan and when I watched the videos recently about your stalker, I had already seen the series and learned that the actor in it is really who dealt with these issues, so the names are 'fake' but the story is true and happened to him.. Martha/Fiona from baby reindeer talks exactly like your stalker did to you!! seriously bipolar between love and hate over the smallest perceived slights. So your videos really gave me flashes to the series and his story. Honestly it's sad for the stalkers too, clearly they're not right in the head but I am so sad anyone has to deal with being stalked and harassed like that. that is not something anyone deserves to deal with. People talk a lot about how being 'famous' means you should expect fans and no privacy.. I disagree with that and the internet makes it so much harder for people in the public eye to even exist as a human. So glad you got to stay safe.

I was stalked by an ex. His greatest hits include: 1. Showing up to my parents best friends house pretending that we where still together. He knew where they lived because we had babysat their kids together once. 2. Showing up at my university after we broke up, trying to get into my flat and getting banned from the student halls 3. Coming back the following year, starting to date a girl from the year below me (bare in mind he didnt go to the university), dating her for six months and i kept seeing him everywhere. Eventually he got drunk, broke down crying and saying he still loved me to his new girlfriend. Obviously they broke up lmfao.

I had my internet activity stalked by my ex. We have a child together so he didn't have to physically stalk me because our lives are so intertwined. He would take screenshots of my online activity, especially if i was even vaguely referencing him, or if i was trying to be not vanilla in not vanilla internet spaces, and he would threaten to take it to court and take my child away from me by convincing them that i was unstable and unfit to be a parent. It did result in me being incredibly paranoid about feeling watched, and so I don't use social media besides UA-cam at this point. Also he was an incredibly terrible human when i was in a relationship with him which just made the internet stalking feel more intense because i had literally run away from all forms of abuse from him, so either my PTSD is likely making it feel worse than it was, or I'm downplaying my own feelings of the experience :P

Words fail me, the police ask why didn’t you come sooner? FFS, when you eventually went, it took them forever to believe you anyway? It’s quite shocking that someone you don’t know can have a huge impact on a persons life. Shocking

the woman who stalked Richard, she got an interview by Piss Morgan to prove that the story was not real, and she gave herself a disservice that it was proven that the story was completely true, that part is so satisfying

I am so glad I saw this video while scrolling on UA-cam. I didn't know you had another channel, Roly, and of course subscribed immediately. I didn't know you had been a victim of stalking but am glad the police eventually helped you!

Had to stop and start a couple episodes too. It was more triggering for me because of the SA topic that comes up later and sexuality confusion. But overall I thought it was a good show that brought up a ton of difficult topics and topics that aren’t as openly talked about. I think as hard as it was to watch the topic of male SA survivors I think was good to bring awareness too.

I hate how victim blaming society is :(

The fact that she's sacrificed her anonymity to become a celebrity feels like the exact sort of move I would expect from how the show depicted her. I can't stand the sight of Piers Moron (and I'd expect nothing less from him than platforming someones abuser), so I haven't watched the interview, but I can only imagine what it must feel like to see her becoming a recognisable face and milking it for her own benefit. It's about power. He got to tell his own story, but even keeping her name out of it, she couldn't let him have that power. Classic abuser stuff.

After I broke up with my ex fiancé because he thought he could control me. I told him no one controls me well he broke in my house and was asleep in my bed. I yelled at him what the f@@k are you doing in my home and in my bed. He stalked me so much I ended up moving to another state. So grateful I did move. I hope you’re doing better now. Oh and I subscribe to your youtube channel. 😊

A horrible man did awful things to me when I was very young. He was immediately removed from my life, but tried to contact me as an older kid, as a teenager, and again as a young adult. Recently I've been finding evidence he may have even been stalking me, just more subtly, in the "quiet periods" too. I've been in therapy for my whole life because of this creep. I'm well aware it's not an option for everyone, but being able to quietly up and move to another state has been my saving grace. It's been 4 years since I had to watch my back, and I can finally breathe. So much love and internet hugs. 💕 No one deserves this crap.

My ex stalked me. He groomed me and was much older than me. was abusive and manipulative. After a year and a half I ran away and had to go to a woman's refuge for 6 months. One year later he's been charged with coercive control and awaiting sentencing. Luckily I had an officer who did his job and was invested and it was a complex case. I can't believe the fight I had to put up to get that guilty verdict. The criminal justice system really needs allot of work.

I don't see victim blaming here. Even Gadd admits he didn't always do the right thing because of his excessive need for adulation.( I am a performer & I have been stalked by the way.)

I'm so sorry to hear this @extraRoly. I was attacked & it still affects me to this day. No one deserves this! Keep up being strong. Much love ❤

All the video's I have watched and never noticed BubadooobubADeeeA on your Hand !!................. How Mad is That !!!

I'm very sorry you went through that, I havent been stalked but I've had DV in my past and understand how triggering shows and movies can be. I've had to excuse myself when watching things with friends before. And it's the same again with people saying "why didn't you just do this?" Unless you're in that situation, you can't know and you can't judge. I truly hope you're doing better now ❤

3:18 Rolly the show isn’t actually fact. It’s inspired by real event but contested by the actual real woman the character is based on. So at best, the show is a dramatized version of a real story.

So glad its working for you

damn roly i am so sorry for you, the moment you talked about how much it triggered you, and even your heart rate, scares me in the way that it is extremely relatable. i personally had it with the series “the bear”, and still to this point have not finished the first series even tho it is amazingly good and i want to eventually. i watched it not knowig really what it was about. now, in the first episode already i was saying to my friend that i have like a weird feeling about the main characte - to then by the end saying but damn this guy has ptsd no? well it was a 2 second search to find what the series was about then, the triggers in that series comes to me so hard that just like you said the triggers are extreme, from sweating to heartrate up, hyperventilation. lots of positive vibes for you and everyone who needs it 🌸🍀🌼

I think it's amazing that you are bringing this again to the public eye and sharing how it affected you as it does have a long-term effect on you and your mental health. Police don't take crimes against men seriously, and they should. Well done for watching it. It was hard to watch. I also think the fame she is getting is horrendous. You ramble and get it all out. It's best to get it out. ❤❤❤

I want to thank you for sharing your story and expressing such important facets of experience. It's should never be the person being subjected that has to defend their actions in the events. We should have left those views in the dark ages along with, "what were you wearing" and "how much did you drink"? I'm very sorry that this is still happening. The other thing I found very valuable was that you show in a very good way that it's not as simple as just being over something. You may have gone through something, dealt with the aftermath, and come out on the other side, different, but still fine. This doesn't mean there's no trace left of what happened. It's perfectly fine to have feelings come back up from triggers, even when you're usually not bothered. People seem to forget this and tend to take it as a sign of weakness, as if the person isn't over it yet. Surviving any life altering event is never a sign of weakness. I hope everyone reading this knows it's a sign of strength to keep going.

Just glad your abit better now x

I,m going through something similar right now. I don’t have a large social media presence but there are abusive people in real life who are cyberstalking me. It’s awful. It’s always the people closest to you who hurt you the most. It also scary how it can be a person you never met before. Police don’t listen until you contact them constantly

Police: Why didn't you come forwards sooner? Victim: Maybe because I was scared you were going to treat me the way you're treating me, not take me pain seriously? Also, shouldn't she have gotten into trouble for making a false report to the police? I mean, she did, so why was that not a priority? P.S. To Roly and any other survivor, you are so amazingly strong, and I wish for you to rest and find your peace. XOXOXO

I was stalked twice, both times by guys that were in the “getting to know” stages. The 1st stalker always knew where I was at all times, it seriously freaked me out when he would randomly call and ask why i was at a specific location and would interrogate who i was with, several times he’d show up at my home when I hadn’t even told him where I lived, I found out later that he had put a tracker in my car. And if i didn’t answer any of his calls (at the time, I worked at a job where we weren’t allowed to use our personal phones) and he would call my office line or just show up at my workplace, it was so uncomfortable for me and my colleagues. The 2nd stalker also knew where i was at all times, i got so pissed off and confronted him, he admitted that he had paid one of his friends to follow me around. He would also show up on my doorstep whenever i was home alone. Insane. To this day he would randomly text from time to time from a new number (i block when i know its him each time) just to “ask how I’m doing”. Both times the police didn’t take it seriously and even said I should be flattered that I had admirers.. it was just absolutely f**ked up and I remember feeling so helpless. This happened years ago, but to this day I still keep switchblades and steel bars in my car and bedroom, I obsessively check and make sure that everything’s locked and nothing’s out of place whenever i leave and come back home, i also push my curtains onto the window sills and put vases and glass items on top all around, just so i can see and hear them break if someone were to break in. I’ve moved several times and each time my dad comes over to install locks 3-4 locks on my doors and cut wood for me to put in my windows so it can’t be opened unless the pieces of wood are removed. Maybe this is all excessive but it was the only way id feel safe at home.

I’m so sorry you had to go through this Roly. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope that you’re feeling better and that this helps you process that trauma a little. And that your story and this movie helps change the way law enforcement reacts to these situations 💜🖤💜